Be what you actually are..
"All human beings have three lives: public, private, and secret." -García Márquez
Truly a thoughtful quote. We all have those three lives. The contrast among them is the basis of serenity or problems in our relationships. A charismatic personality can be acted out for a while. But deep relationships won't foster. We are born to make mistakes and learn from them. Even in our personal lives, we can make mistakes. I have seen many in my life who are desperately craving attention. Dusk till dawn they are acting their lives, finally gets exhausted and ends in depression. Yes, we all have that trait in ourselves. But it should be in our control.
On homes and dress
We buy homes not because we need them but because we can convince others that we are capable. Homes are becoming store rooms of possessions that we don't use. Who need more than 7 pairs of dress at a time but our wardrobes are full and out of space with our cloths. It is a misconception that new = happiness. In 2019 my resolution was to not buy a new dress. Since then I limited my dresses to less than 10 at a time and donated the remaining. I am not a miser. Instead of buying 4 low-quality jeans I now buy a good-quality ones.
Honesty
Whether it is personal or professional, honesty is what makes any relationship strong. We all are vulnerable, and we all have our weak moments. By honesty, I didn't mean to say everything out in public. Not telling frequent lies is also honesty. I watch my surroundings and the people nearby pretty well. And I get it easily when someone lies. Though I pretend like I believed everything that they said, it deeply hurts when the person involved is someone whom I care about.